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For Better or Worse

My Best Friend and Love has a birthday today so I thought I would write this post in honor of him!  He is 45 years old today and has spent almost 20 of those 45 years loving and caring for me as his wife.  What he didn’t know when he said those famous words “I do” and “for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, till death do us part” was that God would most certainly put that vow to the test!   It is easy when you are in the throes of a wedding and the fairy tale romance to believe wholeheartedly that it will be a natural and easy thing to commit your life to this beautiful person.  The thought of caring for one another has a very sweet and romantic feel to it and you say those words with so much warmth and feeling.  But as any of you who have been married for any amount of time know that the romance and good feelings come and go and those vows you made become really important!

Well I sure have done a good job of testing Joe’s vows to me over the years!  Most of you know that I had breast cancer in 2006-2007 where Joe cared for me through several surgeries, chemo and radiation while we had small children to raise and he had a demanding job.  Now, ten years later, he is asked to step up to the caregiver role yet again as I have been diagnosed with heart failure and am waiting to receive a heart transplant.  I am so thankful for his love for me and how committed he is to being there for me and loving me through this difficult time. God has used these experiences and many others in our marriage to solidify our commitment to one another.  It has not been easy at all- even in the midst of suffering we are still both sinners and become prideful, selfish, moody etc. and we have to work hard to forgive.  But because of God’s grace in our lives, we do forgive.  And our marriage grows richer with every challenge.

I am so thankful to God for giving me a husband who loves Him with all of his heart, soul, mind and strength.  A man who makes me laugh at his silly antics, who hugs me every time he sees me (literally!) and who doesn’t stop telling me how much he loves me and wants to be with me.  I am thankful that he is able to recognize his mistakes and ask for forgiveness and he forgives me every time I ask him to.  I know that God gave us especially to each other because we fit so well together and life is so much fuller because of our relationship with each other.

Thank you God for giving Joe to me for these 20 years and for creating him and making him yours before he was mine.  Happy Birthday Joe!  I love you.

Comments

  1. C.S.Lewis… for a Christian, there are, strictly speaking no chances. A secret master of ceremonies has been at work. Christ, who said to the disciples, “Ye have not chosen me, but I have chosen you,” can truly say to every group of Christian friends, “Ye have not chosen one another but I have chosen you for one another.” The friendship is not a reward for our discriminating and good taste in finding one another out. It is the instrument by which God reveals to each of us the beauties of others.”. God is in control. He is all knowing and what a wondrous Father to know the two of you would compliment and encourage each other on your journey of marriage. He is our Provider, Comforter, Counselor, and Healer.

  2. That is so beautiful Carly! He is a lucky man as well.We never know what life is going to throw at us, but God puts us with the right person when we trust in Him. I know that neither of you knew what was ahead of you, but true love is when the going gets stuff, one sticks with it and does’nt bail on the spouse. I have been through some rough times myself, and little did I know that three years after I got married that I would be struck with Bipolar Disorder. My husband has stuck by me as well. We have had our share of problems but God is bringing me back and Ron has stayed faithful to me. When you get through this, ( and you will) you will be able to rejoice together many years from now!

  3. That is so beautiful Carly! He is a lucky man as well.We never know what life is going to throw at us, but God puts us with the right person when we trust in Him. I know that neither of you knew what was ahead of you, but true love is when the going gets stuff, one sticks with it and does’nt bail on the spouse.

  4. I LOVE YOU!!! Nothing but the greatest privilege to be yours forever!! The greatest wisdom of man is to marry a Prov 31 woman! So glad you’re my crown! You’re beautiful baby!

  5. Beautifully written. You two are lucky to have each other. It’s obvious that you were meant for each other. Thank you, Joe, for all you do for Carley. You’re a special man. Happy Birthday, Joe!

  6. Carley and Joe, you are such a beautiful examples of a Godly marriage. I am certified many have come to know and understand the Lord more fully by watching you walk in faith together. Thank you for loving each other so.

  7. I promise I can write. Maybe I gave you your funny for the day above – crazy auto correct on these phones! Hopefully you got the gist of what I really intended. Love and miss you all!

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